A Letter to My Narcissistic “Ex” — A Burn Letter for My Own Peace

Hey.

I’m doing amazing. Life has been full of growth, clarity, and peace. Things are finally aligning for me, and for the first time in a long time, I feel light.

I appreciate you reaching out — truly. I believe your heart is in the right place, but I need to be honest: I don’t want to come by. I don’t want to reopen something that I’ve worked so hard to close.

You came into my life for a season and for a reason. I don’t regret it.You were part of my journey — a necessary chapter that I didn’t understand at the time, but now? Now I see it clearly.

Because of you, I met the most incredible human — Carly.She is one of the greatest blessings that came from our chaos. She’s introduced me to a community that has shown me love, growth, and true belonging. I know without a doubt I was meant to cross paths with you just so I could find her. And for that, I’m grateful.

I Showed You Real Love

I think I came into your life to show you what love really feels like.

The love I poured into you was different — deep, steady, real. I don’t think anyone had ever loved you like that before. And though we didn’t last, I hope now you understand what it looks like to be genuinely wanted — not for show, not for convenience, but for who you are.

You have potential. You really do. And one day, someone will give their whole heart to you again. I just hope by then, you’ll be ready to handle it — and them — with care.

But I Deserve More

I deserve a love that doesn’t leave me questioning every word I say.

I deserve a love where I’m not “too much.” Where my love is met with love. Where I don’t feel like I’m being punished for simply caring too deeply.

With you, I was constantly wondering if I’d done something wrong. You talked about a future with me — about moving in, being there for my kids — and then pulled away like none of it ever mattered. I thought I was stupid for believing it. Worse? You made me feel crazy for believing it.

You wanted me to be exclusive, while you kept your ex on speed dial.That’s not love. That’s manipulation.

I’m Not a Trophy. I’m a Whole Damn Story.

You tried so hard to get me. You love-bombed me.Made promises you couldn’t keep.Painted this beautiful picture of a relationship you never intended to truly show up for.

And once you “secured” me?You pulled back.

I remember opening up to you about one of the hardest experiences of my life, only for you to blame me — to tell me I “ruined” the weekend you were going to ask me to be your girlfriend.

You broke me that night.I remember crying in the hospital, getting hair pulled from my scalp, and wondering how I could still be trying to protect someone who was hurting me.

I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

Even after that — I stayed.Because I saw potential. Because I believed in who you could be.Because I love hard. I always have.

But I’ve also learned that loving hard doesn’t mean accepting less.It doesn’t mean sacrificing myself while someone else “figures it out.”

The truth?You can have a good heart and still be toxic.And I can love you, and still walk away — because I love me too.

I’m Not Going Back

You want to be friends.But even that came with toxicity.

And right now, that doesn’t align with where I’m going in life.I’m on a path to joy, peace, and real connection.

I’m surrounded by people who see me, who bring light, who make love feel easy. I even met someone new. It’s early, it’s fresh — but you know what?

I don’t question myself with him.If he doesn’t text back for hours, I’m not spiraling.I feel safe. I feel light. I feel free.

This Is Goodbye — For Real This Time

You were a chapter. But I’m writing new ones now.

Thank you for being part of the lesson.Thank you for leading me to people who really love me.Thank you for helping me see how much I deserve.

But this? This is me closing the book on us.Because I am no longer waiting to be chosen.I choose me.I choose peace.I choose real love.

And most importantly — I’m never going back.